Saturday, May 9, 2009
Help
I'm hurting and I don't know how to make myself feel better. I'm trying to get over a guy, but it's not something I've had to ever do before. I've been a basket case all week, and knowing you've all most likely been through it before, I figure I could enlist some help. A phone call, a visit, some advice, someone please answer my prayer.
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Malena!!! What happened? Please email me! info@saraboulterphotography.com. I want to drive to you and snuggle.
Tell us about the guy! What is it you miss most about him? Start talking/writing about him, and some of the hurt will come out... Also, I would like to get to know him a little before I come and beat him up--makes it more satisfying...
The most important first step in getting over a guy, though, really, is to LET YOURSELF FEEL THE PAIN! Give in to it and be miserable and feel sorry for yourself until you're good and done with the misery. Eat your favorite foods and watch movies that make you cry. Even if you get tired of crying, try to cry some more. Remind yourself that this is worth feeling bad over, and indulge yourself. The less you fight it, the shorter the time before you see the first ray of light...
And believe--really believe--that there IS LIGHT OUT THERE on the other side of the darkness. There is.
I agree with my mom--I used to go for walks on the beach and cry and cry. There have been a few guys who dumped me and just broke my heart. Each time I thought that my chances for happiness were really really over. It was HARD. But eventually I did feel better . . . and of course hindsight is 20/20, and now I'm so glad that they did dump me because I met and married someone so much MORE WONDERFUL than the dumpers were.
But that feeling doesn't come until after you've been sad for a long time. You're not strange for feeling mopey and unfocused and weepy and sad--you're a person with real feelings.
Let's just agree now that he's a blind jerk and wasn't good enough for you anyway!!!!
But I'm sorry you're sad.
Go serve others who are less fortunate than yourself.
Yeah, and what Cade said too. That works good.
Realize the love of your whole family and know we are and have been praying for you. Listen to Judy. She is so smart.
the first comment I read was by my little sister... gosh I just love her. And she's serious, you know, she would drive to you and snuggle.
Tell us about him, like Aunt Judy said. Is this who you were talking to during episodes of the office?
Seriously, there is nothing like that pain that comes from a broken heart. I'm so sorry. Get your girlfriends together and go play. Get a makeover or a pedicure. something to make you feel like a princess.
love ya
ps...and as for Cade's comment--typical guy!!! yes, go do that and THEN go throw eggs on his (the guy) car. haaaa
Does it help at all to know that I've been there, too...that we all have? If anything, you can know you are not alone in all of this.
It hurts to be alone. And it hurts to feel rejected. And it hurts like heck to feel like you've found what you thought you wanted and then discover you've got to find it all over again.
AND YET. The one thing that got me through all of the madness of my single-tude is this simple truth: there is a plan. A plan for your life. A plan much bigger than you and greater than any one boy can destroy. All you have to do is your best. Be your best. Love your best. Believe your best. Hold the faith as best as you can. Heavenly Father will take care of the rest, including comforting you until the hurt goes away.
There is a plan. The right person IS out there. You're now officially one step closer to finding him.
Love to you, honey. Lots of it.
Malena! I just read this, I'm so sorry! I love the comments from our awesome family, I echo them a billion percent. Have things gotten any better? I love you!
I'm so sorry, Malena!
I have definitely been there and I can agree-- it STINKS! Hold on, though. Life will get better, even thought it may feel like it's over.
Some of the things that helped (and still help me): keeping busy (whether it's finding a new hobby, doing that project you've been putting off for too long, reading a good book, etc.), prayer, getting a blessing, reading your patriarchal blessing, spending time with family/friends (or even calling them if you can't see them in person). But, whatever you do, remember that you have a lot of people who care about you and are praying for you (hey-- just look at the numer of comments on this post. That alone should tell you something!)
Feel free to email me anytime-- kaw229@gmail.com
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